>Sending Test Kits, Poop Smugglers No More!

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Growing our own vegetables

Doing biomedical tests are important as well as expensive. There are many ways we can economise. Many of us now face the task of sending test kits of urine and stool samples for our children’s treatment. We either send the test kits to the labs directly or to our overseas doctor. Whenever possible, always send the test samples directly to the testing speciality lab,rather than to the middle-men lab as is the case in certain Asian countries. Thus avoiding the price mark-up and the samples are fresh and gets to the appropriate labs faster. Otherwise you end up sending the urine and stool to for example, to the Singapore clinic or Jakarta lab, which takes 2 days, then the clinic or local lab then sends it out to the appropriate labs in the USA or Europe which takes another 3-5 days depending on weekends. Which means the turnaround time for your child’s precious urine or stool takes roughly 1 week to get there. Remember, there’s a small period of time which the samples are still viable, otherwise the samples would have deteriorated or rejected by the lab.

So, either you get the full complete test kit from your doctor which includes the collection vials, requisition form and customs declaration forms. Or you email your doctor to request from the lab eg. Doctor’s Data Inc to courier the test kit directly to you, this is easily done. My doctor has done this for me several times, it saves me a trip to Singapore just to pick up a test kit. DDI will email you for confirmation as well as request for your credit card details to charge you for the delivery cost one way. This costs you US$20 per test kit.

If your doctor is reluctant to do this for you, please find a sympathetic local doctor to help you order the test kit, otherwise contact DDI or their local agent (there is one in Singapore for the region) directly to ask for their assistance, they may be able to find a way to help you. Once you receive the kit, read the instructions on how to collect the samples and shipping information carefully. When in doubt, contact your doctor or the lab directly for further clarification. Then you fill in the test sample, fill in the form and courier it back to DDI.

However, in the case of the French lab Phillipe Auguste Laboratoire which is highly respected for their urine prophyrin test as well as their Organic Acid Test (OAT), you can contact them directly on their website to request for them to send you their test kit directly to you. They do not require a doctor to order them, a parent can order it themself. After you fill in the test kit, fill in the appropriate requisition form the details needed such as name of your managing physician/doctor and your credit card details. This is the same for Great Plains Lab, you can contact them directly and order the test kits yourself. They generally require a physician’s approval for US patients, however contact them for assistance for international patients.

For Philippe Auguste Laboratoire, please send the package by registered post only, not courier or poslaju. This is due to French customs restrictions. By post can take 1-2 weeks to arrive, however you can always check by email with the lab directly if they have received your shipment. Always make a copy of your requisition form so that you can provide the order or test kit number etc. Another way to check if they have received it is to check your credit card statement, the lab will only charge your credit card once they have received and are processing your test kit.

When filling in any test requisition form, please include your email address so that you too will get a copy of the test result, otherwise they will send it only to your doctor. And if your doctor is super busy, he or she may not have time to email the results to you. The turnaround time for the results to come back once receiving the test kit will vary. Depending on certain labs or tests, it’s usually 2-5 working days, it may even take up to 2 weeks. Especially when testing for clostridia or candida, it might take more time to culture. Even over the Christmas holidays, I found that they processed my test results quickly and efficiently. However, keep in touch with the lab to find out if your test results are ready, don’t wait too long idly by. I know parents who had to wait 2-3 months for their test results, when they finally received it from their doctor, they found out on the report date that the test was completed months back. So, be proactive and contact the lab yourself. We pay a lot of money for these tests and the consults, so I expect to get my test results on time. Time doesn’t wait for anyone, so even if you contact the doctor and they say that the test report hasn’t come back yet, if you think it’s an unreasonable amount of time, please contact the lab yourself. Take charge, don’t let others slow you and your child’s treatment down unnecessarily.

Hard at work washing windows

For test samples sent to DDI, it requires ice packs, I would suggest including extra ice packs, more than just the small one they provide in the test kit. They cater to mostly US patients, which only takes 1 day delivery, plus their weather is quite cool compared to us in South East Asia. Thus I always include 2-3 large ice packs whenever sending to DDI. For samples to be sent to the French lab, they do not require ice packs at all.

For urine and stool samples to be sent to the USA, please use Fedex. Many Malaysian parents have discovered that Fedex are the best choice. They are used to sending biological non-hazardous materials ie. Urine and stool samples to medical labs overseas. Please contact Fedex directly www.fedex.com/my/  for Malaysian families to request for pick-up as well as delivery slips and packaging materials.  You do not need to register with Fedex or open an account with them. Say goodbye to poop smuggling!

The complete test kits by the labs contains requisition forms and customs declaration forms, so if possible make extra copies of the customs declaration forms for Fedex and for yourself just in case. We have found that other courier companies in Malaysia will refuse such shipments. Many parents have wasted their time calling UPS, DHL, PosLaju and other courier companies, only to be rejected. In the meantime, the clock is ticking because we worry about the viability and freshness of the urine and stool. However with Fedex, we get no issues at all.

Apart from urine sent to the French lab, time is of the essence when you courier out your test kit to the US labs. It usually takes 3-4 days for Fedex to deliver from Malaysia to the USA. Therefor, consider what day you are sending the package off. If you send it off by Fedex to the US lab on Monday, chances are, it will arrive on Thursday, even with any complications or customs delay, it will reach by Friday. If you ship it off from Malaysia on a Friday for example,
courier companies will still ship it over the weekend so your package will arrive at the lab perhaps on Monday or Tuesday. However I prefer not to ship out a package to the USA on Wednesdays and Thursdays. Chances are, it will arrive and cleared by Customs on a Saturday or Sunday. So it will remain in the Fedex storage facility in the US over the weekend as they only do deliveries Monday-Friday. Also take note of public holidays in the US, in case the day your package is schedule to arrive on a holiday, thus meaning another day’s delivery delay, your stool and urine sample sitting in a hot warehouse with an already melted ice pack.

With hair samples, there’s not much issue. Blood spot tests are easy to do ourselves at home and will not raise too much issues with Fedex or customs. However, for tests that require blood or plasma serum samples, this will be discussed in another article.

Even if you don’t have a Fedex account, they will still accept it. You will have to pay yourself for the Fedex courier cost for international patients. The labs usually provide a pre-paid Fedex shipping docket, but that only applies to USA deliveries,. However, they are super efficient and doesn’t give you any hassles about sending non-hazardous biological materials unlike other courier companies. When you call for pickup, they usually arrive within the day to your house or office, they will ask the location you are shipping to and the estimated weight of the package. They will give you the estimate cost, however the pickup guy will weigh it when he arrives at your place and give you the exact cost. So you can then pay him in cash.

To make the tests cheaper, you can opt to omit the “recommendation” pages at the end especially for the OATS and Food Intolerance IgG. Most of those recommendations are usually not beneficial plus costs you additional money. We just need the test result and the analysis. The supplement recommendation in the OATs are to me unnecessary and inaccurate as it is based purely on that 1 test, rather than the overall biochemistry of your child. If your doctor or biomedical practitioner rely too much on the supplement recommendation at the back or base your child’s treatment protocol solely based on the OATs supplement recommendation report, then I would be wary. Because a trained and experienced biomed clinician wouldn’t depend too much on it, most experienced biomed doctors don’t even request for it for their patients as they find it a waste of money for the family. The IgG food Intolerance test also have an option to include the Dietary Recommendation, which to me is unnecessary and an extra waste of money. What is important is the test results of the reactive foods itself, we don’t need to pay extra money for a meal planner which is usually based on a typical American kid’s diet anyway.

Before you order your own test kits, please verify with your own Biomed doctor first the exact name of the test required, which labs he prefers and then reconfirm that the test kit you are going to order is the exact same thing. Otherwise you just might end up doing the wrong test and lose a lot of money and time. Remember, there are many stool tests or urine OATs test, you need to choose which one in the list is the one recommended or requested by your doctor.

Earning pocket money by mowing Atok’s lawn

Now that we know there are many options on how to obtain our own test kits at more affordable prices, doesn’t mean that you should start doing random testing by ordering other types of tests other than recommended by your doctor. Financial constraints are always a concern, I believe the bulk of our budget should always go towards appropriate foods, supplements and treatment consults. Remember, tests are just a guideline. The overal treatment plan should be based on patient history, your child’s unique medical issues and your own parental observation. An experienced biomed doctor will only recommend you to do specific tests that he or she feels are necessary based on your child. Most importantly, the doctor should know what to do with the results and how to treat the issues as laid out in the test results. Otherwise you end up with a bunch of useless expensive tests and no way to go forward.

We find that in certain countries in Asia, overseas biomedical tests are imposed with huge taxes or markups, some to a ridiculous extent. Recently, I was quoted US$500 per child for a particular test via a middle-man lab. I went home, did my research and found out that I can order the test kit myself from the actual testing lab and that it will only cost me US$80! Ridiculous right?? Especially the fact that I’m paying for 2 daughters’ biomedical treatment, every cent counts. If I didn’t have my own initiative, I would have lost US$840, what a rip off!

Therefor we should take the initiative to find other cost saving measures. If your doctor or the local labs are not able to help you source cheaper options, then please join the KL Biomed forum at http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/klbiomed/ . There are many experienced Asian parents who are very proactive and resourceful. We can all learn a lot from each other and find ways to economise.

In the US, it is customary for patients to submit the samples directly to the labs themselves and pay for the cost of the test directly to the labs, at the exact price with no additional markups. In the US, the patients even source their own supplements. For speciality compounded supplements, their doctors will send the prescription to the compounding pharmacy, and the parents deal directly with the pharmacy for delivery, cost, payment and other issues. In Asia, we are used to having the doctor spoon feed us everything from providing test kits to selling supplements. Yes it does make for convenience and I am grateful to doctors who have made things easy for me and my kids. I’m all for convenience but not when I’m being taken advantage of and paying 600% mark-up. Even with the additional delivery charges, I am still better off.

If you are on a tight budget as many of us Autism parents are, be proactive in finding other means to reduce your cost. In South East Asia, it is unfortunate that biomedical treatments are considered to be Autism treatments only for the rich. I hope to see that in the near future, biomed will be more and more affordable and accessible for all children with Autism, ADHD and related disorders. Treating Autistic children’s underlying medical conditions should be affordable and available for every child, not just for the rich.

>More Biomed Doctors in Malaysia

>I’m happy to announce our 3rd Biomed doctor in Malaysia. Dr Yee based in Melaka has been a great source of support to the Autism community especially to Melaka families. I would like to welcome him to our ever growing list of integrative biomedical practitioners in Malaysia. Dr Yee attended the ARI Conference in California in October 2010. Please see below for his details;

http://www.autism.com/pro_clinician_details.asp?c=530

Dr Yee Kok Wah
49 JCN Melaka Raya 13, TMN Melaka Raya Phone: 606-282 8088
City: Melaka  |  Country: Malaysia Email: Siberku@yahoo.com

I also list down the other 2 biomed doctors in Malaysia;

Sui Yin NG, MBChB, MNLP
Suite 116, 1st Floor, Medical Office Building 282, Jalan Ampang Phone: 603-42576998
City: Kuala Lumpur  |  Country: Malaysia

Eddie Chan, MBBS, MRCP(Edinburgh), MRCPCH(London)
16 Jalan Puteri 4/2, Bandar Puteri Puchong Phone: (60) 3-80623925
City: Puchong, Kuala Lumpur  |  Country: Malaysia Email: eddiecsh@hotmail.com

When choosing to work with a biomedical doctor or nutritionist, please read the introduction by ARI on the clinician registry. http://www.autism.com/pro_danlists_results.asp?International=true

Please refer to https://spectrummum.wordpress.com/2011/04/19/spring-2011-ari-conference-atlanta-georgia/ for the latest information regarding biomedical doctors in Malaysia.

>Juggling Doctors and 2nd Opinions

>Many parents ask me whether I still consult with certain doctors, why do I consult with other doctors for 2nd opinions, is it because I do not trust the first doctor, how do I choose whose protocol to implement, how do I handle conflicting opinions and so on.

As you may know, both my daughters are still on biomedical treatments. Initially for Maya when she was diagnosed with Autism, and even though she has lost the Autism diagnosis, she still has lingering health issues. And Yasmin was regressing into Autism and prevented her from fully developing Autism. She is no longer at risk for Autism however like her sister, there are still medical and health issues to be addressed and monitored. Whichever doctor I consult at that time may depend on which specific issues I believe that doctor may have better expertise in.  At times, I need a fresh set of eyes to give me a new perspective in certain matters. It also depends on whether that doctor has experience in certain products or technology which other doctors may not have access to due to where they are located or their training.

If I feel that a current doctor has exhausted his bag of tricks, that things have stagnated then I know it’s time to get a new set of perspectives. Remember that different doctors have different training, experience as well as seen a different set of patients. Also each doctor has different priorities and will emphasize on certain issues and may not have the same set of priorities as I do at that point in time.

So far, I have consulted with Dr Sundardas, a naturopath in Singapore, Dr Erwin Kay, an MD from Singapore, Dr Mark Westaway, an Australian MD who practiced in the UK but has since moved on to join the prestigious TRANSCEND research team in Harvard, Dr Rina Adeline, an MD and lecturing professor in Indonesia, Dr Anthony Underwood, a Syndey based MD specializing in Autism, Dr Kyle Van Dyke, an MD in the US who is also a frequent speaker at Autism Research Institute conferences, Dr Jeff Bradstreet, an MD in the USA who specializes in Autism, a member of the ARI and frequent speaker at Autism conferences internationally and Dr Michael Beilby, an Australian MD who also trained in holistic medicine and practices homeopathy. Majority of them are Medical Doctors. I consulted with these doctors for their different expertise for my 2 daughters, both with different sets of medical diagnosis and issues. I have learnt much from each and every doctor, they have helped my children in different ways, some more than others. Take note that I don’t jump from one doctor to the next after just 1 consult, I generally stick with one doctor and his protocol for at least a few months, otherwise it would be too soon to tell if his protocol is effective or not.

Because I live in Malaysia, certain products and supplements are not easily accessible to us here. Some doctors I chose from specific countries where they can get access to certain supplements. Some doctors are limited by their own country’s health regulation as to which products or treatments they can prescribe or practice. There are certain things a USA based doctor can do which a doctor in another country do not have access to and vice versa. Also some doctors are not able to supply certain products at a reasonable cost due to high taxes imposed by their country of residence. So I look to my other doctors to supply that particular product at a more reasonable cost. Dr Van Dyke and Dr Bradstreet both have children affected by Autism, whereas the other doctors do not if I’m not mistaken. They have different outlooks in matters of practice because they have gone through what we as parents live through every day. They have experienced firsthand how Autism devastates a family. However, all the other doctors still provided the same amount of commitment and support to us even though they do not have children with Autism themselves.

I don’t find any of their opinions to be conflicting, instead I find them to be a different perspective. And that’s what I’m looking for, to explore all opportunities and try different supplements. Each doctor has their own set of preferred protocol, dosage and supplements or medications. Some protocols worked spectacularly on my girls, some were appropriate for Maya, some failed in Yasmin and vice versa.

I have experienced the utmost professionalism and commitment from all my doctors. And each one has helped us get closer and closer to Recovery. I am open with my doctors on who I have consulted with, what protocols have worked for us and what has not. And I ask their help in improving the current protocol as well as exploring other issues which may not have been covered by a previous doctor.

I thank the doctors for their commitment in treating infections and GI disorders, I respect doctors for their willingness to explore different chelation protocols, I am grateful to doctors who prioritize the girls’ immune dysfunction, mitochondrial issues and low weight gain. I cherish the doctors whose advice brought on a huge leap in progress in better sleep, wearing clothes, toilet training and improved speech. I am blessed with wonderful doctors who support me whenever I  bring up a new treatment that I learnt from a recent conference and their willingness to explore other possibilities with me. To their credit, they have never rolled their eyes at me whenever I come up with yet another hare brained scheme or whenever I debate with them over a difference in opinions. I have never been belittled for my ignorance, instead they support me in learning more about another treatment.  

I am thankful for doctors who take the time to reply to my incessant emails. I apologize to doctors who have had to pick up the pieces whenever I try a protocol that failed, yet never were we reprimanded for trying new things. I received support, encouragement, hope and sage advice from each and every doctor. Most of all, I am thankful for doctors who listen to mothers.

It doesn’t mean that we should take all Doctor’s advice at face value and follow all instructions meekly. Many parents are afraid of asking what they think are stupid questions, there are no stupid questions. If you have an opportunity to ask and learn, do it. If the Doctor’s answer doesn’t satisfy you, ask again. Sometimes, the doctor is not good at teaching or explaining, rather they are better at actually doing than teaching. I don’t look for someone to hold my hand throughout this journey, the Doctor’s job is to recover my children, not to give me a one on one biochemistry lesson.

Many doctors don’t have the time to teach us how a supplement or medication works, I would rather use the consult time to interpret lab tests, discuss patient history, work on specific issues and how to rectify them. It is up to us to learn why doing Mb12 injections are crucial even though the test reports high amount of B12 anyway. No offense to them, many doctors are better at practicing medicine rather than giving a presentation or lecture on biochemistry. Some doctors speak in medical terms, and not able to relay the information in simpler language that us parents can understand. But all that doesn’t matter to me, what matters is that they are committed to our children and that our children thrive and improve under their care. 

In my opinion, parents doing biomedical intervention should get a 2nd opinion at least once a year, ideally every 6 months if you can afford it. However, if you feel that having 2 different perspectives to be too difficult to manage and the result is a lot of confusion, then it’s best to stick to just 1 doctor that you are comfortable with. However, don’t get too comfortable or be too much in love with one particular doctor that you get tunnel vision. Open up yourselves to other opportunities and opinions, the opinions may conflict but it may open up yourself to other possibilities. 

On how to choose whose protocol or dosage to follow, I rely on the doctor’s point of views, my own research as
well as my intimate knowledge of my own child. Science has not evolved enough to predict which protocol is best for a child. It is up to us to try it out and observe for improvements or negative reactions. Report the outcome back to your own doctor and move on from there.

Some parents upon getting a 2nd opinion, get confused whose advice to follow, the first doctor or the 2nd doctor’s. Firstly, if your first Doctor’s protocol is not working, then it’s time to change to a different protocol right? Secondly, if the protocol is working, you have a choice not to follow the 2nd Doctor’s advice. However, the whole purpose of 2nd opinions in my view is to challenge me to try a new direction. If I’m afraid of change, I wouldn’t have gone for a 2nd opinion right? It would be a shame to go seek a 2nd opinion and yet you refuse to try the new treatment he suggested. Might as well have saved your money and stick to the same doctor. If you are happy with your current rate of progress, then great and stick with what works. But don’t go for 2nd opinions just because your friend did it, do it because you want to achieve something else you feel has not been addressed. Like I mentioned before, don’t do a test if you are not willing to do the work required once the results are out. Subsequently, don’t seek a 2nd opinion if you do not want to deviate from your current protocol. I do it because I know there is always something new to be explored, always a new treatment or a different protocol that we haven’t tried.

I do not recommend anyone to consult with so many doctors, I never set out to ‘acquire’ that many doctors. Some doctors were better for Maya and some doctors were better for Yasmin. Not every child will require that many doctors to get to recovery, many children thrive under the care of one doctor. However, both my girls present a different set of complexities that some children may not have. Yasmin in particular was harder to treat compared to Maya.

I chat with our Malaysian biomed doctors occasionally, I also hear from many parents on their views of different doctors. I know more and more parents who are passionate in treating their children’s medical issues due to Autism, many consult with a doctor and many choose to do it solo. For those who choose not consult with a doctor, I also encourage you to seek advice not just from one source of information. I admire their courage and confidence in going on this journey without the help of a medical doctor. I learn a lot from biomed parents, their insights and knowledge of their child’s treatments are valuable.

It’s just a matter of opportunity, and you know that I am never one to let an opportunity to pass me by. If an opportunity comes by, I grab it. Time is  too precious to waste and my children’s health are my priority. Never stop learning, whether it’s from books, other parents, health forums, conferences or doctors. Whether you chose to treat your child’s Autism with mainstream medicine, behavioral therapy, alternative treatments such as Biomed or homeopathy, with a Medical Doctor, a holistic naturopath or going solo on the advice of friends, however you choose, remember to keep moving forward. Avoid tunnel vision, explore all opportunities and most of all, ensure the health and safety of your child at all times.

>Journey Through A Vast Spectrum….

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Maya & Yasmin after Ballet Class

Throughout my journey with recovering Maya and Yasmin, I got to know many families and children affected by Autism. I may not have had the opportunity to give each and every child with Autism I know a hug, but I have had the privilege of listening to their stories. An Autism diagnosis covers such a vast spectrum of behaviors and features, just as each child is different, so are their families. Each child with Autism comes with a different set of circumstances on how they arrived at this journey. Each parent comes and faces the challenges that Autism brings in different ways.

Through support groups, online forums and the friendships we forge through our time in Autism, we all share our recovery journey, describe our child’s symptoms, troubleshoot each other’s therapy or medical issues, seek advice on a test report that has arrived, help getting supplements for each other, share tips and advice, compare prices, give feedback on new treatments and many more. Our children’s diagnosis ranges from Autism, whether mild, moderate or severe, Asperger’s, ADHD, ADD, PDD-NOS, GDD. Other diagnoses were a little vague eg. with some developmental delays, some behavioural issues …..you get the idea. For some, their child are ‘unlabelled’, for better or for worse, because they don’t fall under any of the current diagnostic criteria. Most of our kids here are lumped together under psychiatric, behavioural and developmental disorders, to be left to the tender mercies of the world of psychopathic medication, psychiatric institutions and behavioural therapy.

But behind the curtains so to speak, we also hear and share stories of guilt and regret. There’s a lot of self-blame going around, especially amongst parents whose children were recently diagnosed. Self-blame is an unfortunate past-time for some parents. Many parents, mothers especially harbour feelings of guilt and regret over their child’s Autism.  A friend shared her regret recently, taking up too much of the blame on her shoulders. Shoulders that were already shuddering under the massive weight of responsibility that comes hand in hand with Autism. She felt that her actions were part of the blame on why her son had Autism. We hear these stories all the time, however the more Autism Warrior Parents I speak to, the more I learn that Autism is such a vast spectrum, there is no one definitive causative factor. Each and every child I hold in my heart came about to Autism through different means, many with co-morbidity. Some were early onset ie. the symptoms were showing from birth, some were regressive ie. Children with normal development but regressed or plateaud after 1 years old. Some regressed rapidly, some regressed gradually. In a small handful of families, there is Autism or a related disorder in the family tree. But majority of the children I know do not.

Playing tea party

We hear regret over what happened during pregnancy such as getting dental amalgam work, eating lots of fish, working in a super stressful job, hypertension, feeling depressed, getting Rhogam shots, induced labor and other complications during pregnancy. Some were unavoidable such as having to do emergency surgery or contracting a virus during pregnancy.

There is a fair share of normal and c-section births, some mothers had complications or needed forceps during the birth, many had uneventful births. Many newborns were healthy, but some were in ICU, a few had medical complications, some required surgery at such a young age. Many children had high APGAR scores, some were very low.

Some parents regretted not breastfeeding, a few mothers breastfed for a few months then switching to formula, some breastfed their babies up till 2 years old, some dedicated mothers who had to go back to work would express milk in the office even. I know many mothers who went back to work, a few felt that it was one of the reasons why their children got Autism. Some mothers contemplated quitting their job to take care of their child full time after receiving the Autism diagnosis. Some did, but some continued on as their income was much needed. There are many households where both parents worked, some parents even have second jobs to afford the treatments. Some households have many nannies and maids to help, others had part-time babysitters but many do not have extra help at all. A few families lived with supportive grandparents. And common amongst Asian families, many live in large households with extended family members. Quite a few biomed mums felt isolated in the midst of their family who are opposed to her treatment choices. And some are lucky enough to have full support.

First in line for birthday cake at cousin’s party

A few felt that because they had other children, their child was somewhat neglected thus causing Autism. I know children with Autism who were either the eldest child, the middle child or youngest child. There are families with several children, for some all are somewhere on the spectrum, I know families where the other children were perfectly healthy but with one child affected by Autism.  I know of a few twins, for some only one of the twins have autism, in other families, both twins had Autism but their symptoms were on opposite ends of the spectrum. Some families have to make the difficult choice of choosing which twin to treat as they couldn’t afford to treat both children.

Many children were generally healthy, a large number like my girls were considered healthy except for frequent sore throats, ear infections, constipation, rashes, colic, frequent colds and flu, constantly on antibiotics and a few other medical issues which are generally accepted as normal by most paediatricians. Some children has asthma and allergies, and a small number have other more serious underlying medical issues.

There were children who were pre-verbal, some had some language skills. Some children were hyper-active, some were aggressive, a few were screamers, overly-friendly even with strangers, and some were self-abusive. Some children were very passive, quiet, withdrawn, some children could barely walk or sit upright for long. I know children who started therapy or treatment with little or no verbal communications, but have progressed to losing many of their stims, speaking in 5 word sentences, back to back conversation and spontaneous unprompted speech. I also know children who even with years of therapy and treatment has made very little progress in comparison to t
he amount of time, money and effort they took.

Just as our children manifest such a huge spectrum of behaviors and progress, so do the parents. There were older mums and younger mums. Some were domestic goddesses who cooked organic GFCF or SCD foods, some do rotational diets. A few mothers aren’t familiar with their own kitchens, having chefs, maids or family members who are in charge of the cooking. Yet each and every parent I know succeeded in implementing the strict diets their children require.

I know many supportive amazing fathers. Many are hands-on therapy and Biomed dads, but too many are unsung and unseen heroes who work tirelessly to ensure they could financially provide for the treatments. One common factor in all these children dear in my hearts is that they are surrounded by love and parents who would go to the ends of earth to help their kids. And a special shout-out goes to aunts, uncles, grandparents, in-laws and other extended family members who willingly roll up their sleeves and work together towards recovering their beloved nephew, niece, grandchild, cousin etc.

Maya at Jazz Class

I have had the privilege of meeting many families affected by Autism of many ethnicities and nationalities; Malay, Chinese, Indian, Thai, Indonesian, Philipino, Caucasian, Central-American, African American, Afro-Caribbean, Eastern-European, Arabs and Middle Eastern. Some were of mixed ethnicities. Some were the traditional 2 parents and kids families, some were single-parents, some lived in huge communal family homes with extended family members, some were locals who receive help from family members, some were expatriates living very far away from their support network. I know a few families where one or even both the parents were doctors, yet they still face the same challenges just like us other Autism parents.

Many parents have various opinions on their causative factor or what triggered Autism in their child. The list is too long to write down, suffice to say most were varied. Some families choose one treatment or therapy, some chose a mixture of modalities. A few have to try many different therapies and treatments before they found what was most effective for their child. Some are happy with their child’s progress, but many wish it was better and faster. Treating Autism is a long journey indeed, we do not know when we will reach the destination. We cannot predict where the destination will be. For many, the journey can be very lonely and isolated too.

I have had the privilege of knowing a few families affected by Autism all over the world. There are many children I hold very dear in my heart, many of their parents have become close friends. At times, the sadness hits me like a tsunami. This happened often in the early days of diagnosis, the sadness and loneliness are now few and far between. But it still hurts to see old photos and videos of Maya and Yasmin before they were affected. If I wanted to, my list of regret would be plenty. A lot of things that I can fester in and let the weight of guilt push me down. But I won’t.

Maya pre-Autism

Let go of the guilt and regret. Yes, the sadness does linger on for a long time. But don’t let your own grief disable you. Within that sadness, there are many moments of hope, joy and happiness. Perhaps one day scientific research may catch up and can isolate certain causative factors and able to identify who are at risk of Autism. There are books and articles online on how to prevent Autism.

This is one of my favourite photos of Maya before she regressed into Autism. Before the shining light and the depth of her soul in her eyes were dimmed, before she turned into a shadow of her true self. Before Autism took away so much of her joy and happiness. But now, I have a happy child full of life again. Maya is a daughter and sister again, happy, playing and joining in all the fun things that 5 year old girls do. For that I will be eternally grateful.

Please join the KL Biomed forum for Asian-based families. Get acquainted with other parents, professionals and support groups who believe that Autism is Treatable. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and positive. Establish a network of friends, manage your anxiety and stress levels (I know there’s many of you out there!), don’t be afraid to ask for help. Believe that every little thing you do counts. Not every child may get to full recovery, however you can improve the quality of their lives tremendously. So keep up the great job my friends, you inspire me with your strength, determination and resourcefulness. And remember that I hold your loved child true in my heart ……